Imagine connecting with your perfect traveling companion: one who shares your taste in hotels, food, sightseeing, and nightlife, with the same travel wish list and spirit of adventure (or not, depending on your mood). This perfect companion is yourself!
Solo travel has been booming as more of us discover the appeal, the freedom, and the rewards of hitting the road on our own. Once the domain of “spinsters” and lonely souls, solo travelers now include a raft of people of all ages who are perfectly happy to go on their own, leaving spouses, relatives, and friends at home. And after having been confined at home for weeks, some separate time away may be rewarding for all.
The benefits are many. Not only is your traveling companion guaranteed to share your interests, but you’ll find being on your own is an amazing tonic to build self-confidence and resourcefulness. You are guaranteed to have encounters you’d never have if you were traveling with a partner or friend as you make memorable connections with locals and your fellow travelers.
Plus, traveling solo gives you a chance to tread more lightly and be more conscious about your impact on the environment, the resources, and the communities, as well as to help protect the local heritage of the places you visit.
Yet many of us – not surprisingly mostly women – are reluctant to travel on our own. We have concerns about safety, security, theft, what to do at night and even dining alone. Fear not: there are tons of resources brimming with tips on how to thrive on your own. Here are a few tips, culled from years of going solo – beginning from the time I was 15 years old and traveled to England on my own for school.
Perhaps the most important thing to emphasize is that on your first solo trip, you needn’t head out on a three-month backpacking adventure through South America. Why not start with baby steps? Maybe a weekend away to a nearby town. An all-inclusive resort down south just might provide the combination of safety and sociability you need. Or join a group tour and start or end it with a few days on your own. Choosing a destination where English is the national language is a huge help.
Many solo travelers are concerned, not surprisingly, about being lonely. After all, you can hardly go up to a stranger in an unknown city and strike up a conversation, right? To avoid the loneliness trap, before you travel, see if you can connect with anyone in the destination. Does your dentist have a sister living there? Why not arrange to meet for a cup of coffee? Love to sketch or cook or do yoga? Sign up for a class before you leave home. Not only will it instantly connect you with like-minded locals, but it will start to give shape to your days. Some countries even have free programs that will arrange a meeting with a local who shares your interests. For example, through a program like this on one trip in the Bahamas, I spent a lovely afternoon with a local lady sipping tea in her home and discussing life in our very different countries.
Another anti-loneliness cure is to take small group day tours. You can learn about graffiti on a walking tour of London’s Camden neighborhood, shiver at the delightful creepiness of Mexico City’s witchcraft market or learn to cook tajine in Morocco. All on affordable tours with just a handful of people and which last just a few hours.
It's true though, solo travel is not always easy.
There are some common-sense rules which apply to all travelers, including not being flashy in dress or with cash; traveling as lightly as possible; and learning a few words of the local language. On public transportation, including trains, choose a seat next to someone rather than one with an empty seat beside it, because you never know who might join you.